Matt was the first guy I met A.B. (After Break-up). We met on Grindr (See Appendix: Grindr) by luck. I had not fired up Grindr for weeks in Seattle and out of pure boredom I finally did. The irony is Matt is also a heavy business traveler, so our paths would’ve rarely crossed on Grindr.

The dialogue between Matt and I was of an extremely friendly tone. I think we hit it off pretty well online. I thought he had a pretty cute Grindr photo (which he disclosed to me was about 2+ years old – another quirk of Grindr users, using old photos) and I’m guessing he thought the same of mine. We continued our chats via text messaging and decided to meet up for dinner.

He suggested that we have dinner at the new Indian restaurant, Shanik. (Little did I know that this was foreshadowing to the flavors he preferred in men.) I met him at the restaurant and must note that he arrived about 20 minutes late (normally, I would flag this, but let it slide… little did I know that this was another consistent theme for him in future meet-ups.)

My initial reaction of Matt was: cute guy and extremely intelligent. What a breath of fresh air! Matt works in academic healthcare as a consultant; hence his busy travel schedule. We started out with drinks at the bar and finally was seated for dinner. What I really enjoyed about the evening was his conversation. Chatting with Matt came naturally and he was able to navigate my quirkiness and random side notes. I appreciate that about a guy when they’re able to adapt to my conversation style and able to counter it with similar stride.

At the end of dinner, we hugged and promised to connect again at a later date. That was back in January and now its been over six months and we’re still friends. We’ve hooked up a few times and he’s helped me settle into my new apartment. I honestly must say that I could not have settled in so well without his warmth and his generosity. He accompanies me to my season subscription of ballet (he calls himself my “ballet slut”). It never ceases to amaze me on how well our conversations go every single time! However, I have not let it progress to anything more than friendship. I enjoy Matt a lot: he’s cute, he’s smart, he’s talented and such a great catch! But I finally disclosed to him that I wasn’t ready to date anyone. I am only into making friends at the moment.

So, it was all me. Needless to say, Matt has continued to meet guys (on Grindr) and I believe he is currently dating a great guy who has won his heart. It’s just like that saying: “You snooze; you lose.” I hope that his friendship continues to be a part of my life.

STATS:

• Where did we meet: Grindr
• Age: 42
• Height: 5’9″
• Weight: 170 lbs
• Hair Color: Blondish/Light Brown
• Position: Top (primarily)
• Penis Size: 6″
• Best quality: Intellect and conversation

Matt is an awesome guy! Who ever settles with him will be a very lucky man. It’s always fun hanging out with him and need I mention that he’s a culinary expert! He has a very discriminating taste which I appreciate.