Today, I received a formal agreement from my Ex. It was a “Dissolution of Partnership” to make our separation final and legal. Basically, it’s a 3 page document stating that we’re no longer “partners” and that we have no financial obligations to each other. On top of that, it clearly outlines the who owns what.

This is finality at its best. 

In this day and age, one can never be too safe from retribution. It’s a society of material goods and fear of losing those material goods. So, people draw up contracts and agreements in order to protect themselves. 

Of course, I was expecting this from my Ex. I expect no less. He got the house, the furniture, the cat and the long-term investment. I lost all that, plus the car. BUT I got the dog and I got my self-regard and dignity. 

The irony of gay relationships is that it all begins out of lust and then moves into love. But somewhere between love and hate, the relationship starts to get tied up in money and property and material things. Some people choose to stay despite the challenges and lack of love because there’s just so much already invested in the relationship. Blood, sweat and tears…and money.

But others realize there’s so much more to life than that. One’s happiness is key. Whatever strength a person can muster, they do it. They end the relationship and sacrifice EVERYTHING in order to move towards something more substantial and less material. It’s hard to do – but hope drives it.

Anyway, I need to find an attorney to review this Dissolution. Just when I thought things were completely over, I still have some work to do. Such is life!