Hugh Grant’s character said it best in About A Boy: “Once you open the door to one person, anyone can come in.”

In my melancholy daydreams last week, I started reminiscing of people I’ve met over the last year. On New Year’s Eve, I started actually thinking about Matty J and wondering how he was doing. First, let me remind everyone about Matty vs. Matt. Matty was the first guy I met last year after my break-up. You can read about him in the original blog post. Yes, he is actual a Matt, but goes by the nickname Matty. I just want to differentiate between the two Matts.

Matt is the new guy who I’m falling in love with and who I’m “exclusively dating”.

Anyway, I started to think about Matty on New Year’s Eve. It wasn’t just a passing thought. It was a reminiscing moment that played through memories of dates and hanging out. I think I started to miss him at that moment.

Last Friday (My Birthday), he texted me to tell me Happy Birthday. Just out of the blue… We hadn’t texted since early June. The universe was listening and it responded immediately.

Matty and I did dinner on Saturday night and it was like no time had passed at all! It was an incredible evening and my heart started to warm up to him. I know that when we first met, I wasn’t ready to date him at all. He sent me a message telling me that I’m “hot” and a “sweetheart.” 

Yes, I think he is still interested in me. We’re planning to hang out again. A movie perhaps…

So now what? I’m exclusively dating Matt, but now Matty has come back and is expressing curious interest in me. What do I do? My heart is torn. Do I invest energy into a Long-Distance Relationship with a guy I am falling in love with?  Or, do I transition, ending my dating with Matt, and then start to engage interest with Matty?

I wish I could do both. But I’m not wired that way. Why do I have to be such a romantic?